The C Word

Yes-Yes C and No-No C

The alphabet C is a fascinating one - like I am thinking of so many C's that are ok and not ok . The BIG C is for Cancer which definitely no one wants.

There are so many C's that guide my life

The YES-YES Cs
C is for Compassion
Yes we as human beings have this wonderful ability to feel the pain of the other person . A fine quality to possess and develop. Compassion is the root of mutual love and respect.

C is for courage
The courage to live, to face adversities in life , to walk the path of life alone and fearless and head held high . Oh - I need this so much.

C is for Contentment
Which is crucial for a happy living. A wave of contentment should wash over me now and then - gives me the glow of positivity that should emanate from me and spread like a wave around. Contentment has NOTHING to do with what you have - it is defined by who you are.

C is for caring
The deepest joy one human can give another human is to care. Caring should be my habit - to serve another human being with kindness and compassion. Caring is not about saying kind words it is about DOING kind acts to show that you really care.

C is for Creativity
I watched a Google ad today and it was so touching, moved me to tears , absolutely awesome - that is creativity. To think for yourself, to do things a little different, little more beautiful, a bit more elegant , lots of love for others, giving
Creativity spreads cheer and deep satisfaction all around.

C is for Consistency
One goes thro several phases in life ( spoken like a true senior citizen - that is me Yes!! )  - thro all these ups and downs consistency in my words , actions, thinking ensures that my peace within is rarely disturbed by external events.

C is for confidence
Yes, I wish to be that super confident person who will stand by self and others like a rock - I am trying my whole life to develop this trait in me. "Yes I can " My son would say "Can Do" attitude.

The NO-NO C's

C is for controlling

Controlling means to tell someone how they should be doing this or that not giving a chance for that person to discover for themselves. It is suffocating to the other person - like a dog held on a leash .  Controlling means robbing another human being of their freedom to choose, make mistakes and learn from their mistakes. Some people tend to control 100% of others lives at 100% of the time and it can be a 100% undoing of life itself . It simply robs the joy of life. Tendency to control has its roots in power play - one human being wants to establish power over another. It is a win-lose situation and I do not wish to be in either. Live and let live is a win-win happy control-free state. I neither wish to control nor to be controlled.  In this vast universe there is space for every human being to co-exist in a fearless, free way and controlling has no place in the scheme of happy living.  

C is for comparison
A no-no for ever - no point in comparing and feeling and spreading misery around self and others

C is for crying
No point in doing that for long ( over spilt milk, shattered glass!! , lost life ) It is ok in small doses to let out our feelings.

C is for Criticising
Not a wonderful trait to have as it is the opposite of compassion and courage - like you criticise a person, you discourage them - you express your non- acceptance of that human being - so where is your compassion? Self-criticism is even worse than criticing others - it kills the self confidence one is trying so hard to develop.

C is for cribbing
Cribbing means expressing discontentment for every small thing that is not going your way, that you have no control over . Cribbing is living a poor life even if really are blessed with abundance - like crib about weather, rising cost of living, your own self, others' behaviour , even about abundance - like "Oh what will I do with so much? " etc etc.. Cribbing gives a HALO of negativity around the person - opposite of contentment and it also spreads like a wave of gloom where none existed.

C is for calculativeness
Some people always do or give something in return for some personal benefit - Some call it shrewdness, greed and even advocate it for success in life . I want to say NO-NO to such an attitude in me . It is the opposite of genuine generosity.

All this to "I, me, myself" 

Pain has no color, no religion

Last few days have seen terrible blood shed, killings by terrorists, police killing ,  police officers shot dead , The IS threat hanging like Macbeth's sword all over the world, 28 people in a cafe in Bangladesh killed , hacked by terrorists, who were also killed . 55 people killed in Orlando massacre and the killer also killed. 200 people killed in Baghdad by suicide bombers. Killing, Killing and more killing.

What struck me is each and every human being is born to a mother (parents actually) - Every child is brought up with so much love and care. There is a family which is the web of relationships around each and every individual. The loss of any member of a family is so deeply painful and inflicts a lifetime of sadness - parents mourn the loss of their daughter or son , children lose parents, and so many more loss. A mother's anguish and pain over the loss of a child is universal - be it black, white, muslim, American , any religion, any region of the world. And the pain does not go away ever. And AVOIDABLE totally. Why mankind has come to this state of affairs?  Infact every killing saddens me as a mother - I feel the pain.  How did we lose compassion for each other ? Life is so short, such a wonderful gift , it can be so so beautiful for all of us individually and together.

When each of us is born, we are born into a religion which is a set of beliefs. We are born with that color those features. My cultural beliefs are deeply embedded in me having been born into it. That does not mean I have to disrespect the other person's belief system or color or whatever differences. And no religion should be forced on anybody including the one we are born into. There is space for all in this vast world with so much of natural resources and so much of beauty.

Another undoing of mankind is the invention of guns which have become weapons of easy killing of one another. Shoot, bang , dead. Permanent pain to another human being.

It is high time we as one race get together and think how we can co-exist in peace . I feel for all the mothers today who have lost a son or daughter in this mindless killing and are inconsolable,  mourning , wishing it had not happened, wishing to see their son or daughter walk into their life once again.

A mother's pain is universal.